Note: Written while under the influence of alcohol. Unlike some writers, I do not write better with a few drinks in me, so please forgive any incoherence. In fact, you may want to skip this post altogether.

Next week, I’m vacationing with my closest friends (the ones whose pretty faces are plastered all over my site; the ones whom I’ve devoted an entire un-published book to). We do it every year, head down to Cape Cod and shack up in Cris’s family’s cottage (see homepage for photo of said cottage). It’s become a tradition, and I love that. I love our traditions.

I’ve been looking forward to this trip for months. We all have. For some of us, it’ll be the first vacation we’ve taken all summer (or all year). But more than that, it’s the one time during the whole year that all eight of us are together, in one place.

Aside from the Cape, we’ve taken quite a few trips together as a group, though usually with one or two of us missing. And every trip is memorable and wonderful. Which is why I always, always forget how fucking stressful the week leading up to the vacation is. But then, this is true of most family vacations, right? The packing, the logistics, the preparations.

Of course, with my friends, there’s always more to it than that. In addition to the mundane pre-vacation to-do list, there’s the drama. Oh, the drama.

Let me explain. My best friend Lizzi, for those of you who don’t know her, loves to cook. She’s an awesome cook, in fact, and she cooks for all of us, often. Many years ago, we were over at Adam’s for the Super Bowl. It was 2004, come to think of it, because Janet Jackson’s nipple was also in attendance that night. Lizzi planned to make hoagies, a Super Bowl tradition. (Like I said, we love our traditions.) I remember her stepping out of the kitchen and running through our orders: Julie, no peppers. Adam, no pepperoni. Cris, no tomatoes. And so on. Now, any other person who cooks for her friends on a regular basis would just make a bunch of fucking sandwiches. But not Lizzi. She always caters to our specific dietary preferences. Not only that, but she also remembers all of them.

I don’t cook, so my role is a little different. Substitute emotional needs and well-being for dietary preferences and you’ve got Julie. By that I mean, I cater to everyone’s feelings. I assess and uncover and mitigate and assuage and negotiate and resolve and encourage and facilitate. So you can imagine what my week’s been like. When eight adults who love one another as much as we do are about to embark on a week of togetherness, you’ve got problems. Lots of them. And the goal, if you’re a people-pleaser to the five-billionth degree like I am, is to resolve all of those issues so that the trip can be as fun as we want/hope/need it to be. So, I take it all on: the recent pseudo-break-up and the bullshit excuses and the petty fights and the awkward exes and the time to buy the groceries and the she e-mailed him but he doesn’t want to do that and he’s taking a half-day but she’s watching the kid and he just started a new job and she’s pissed and I’ll pick him up at the airport so that no one has to suffer anything or experience any discomfort. Because god forbid we experience discomfort.

I blame no one but myself for all of this. Like I said, I take it on. But then there’s my job and my other job and trying to finish everything before I leave and seeing my ex-non-boyfriend on the street and having to spend money I don’t have on new tires. And suddenly I’m screaming fuck you motherfucking fucker to some old man on the highway who’s driving ten miles below the speed limit. It ain’t pretty.

What I’m not-so-eloquently getting at is this: There’s currently a pimple on my chin the size of Canada. I’m calling it the Scooby pimple, because, well, the Scooby Gang put it there. My friends put it there. I put it there.

But the thing is, I know that by the time this horrid week is over, it will shrink. When I’m on the road, cruising down to the Cape, my pimple will be a distant memory. Because when all is said and done, unlike the family vacations of my youth, unlike most family vacations with everyone everywhere, this family, my friend family, actually enjoys one another’s company. We have fun together. We have more fun together than we do apart, and that’s why I sprout this pimple time and time again. Because once we get there, once we get past all the silliness and all the craziness, it’s worth it. Hell, it’s worth a thousand pimples.